“Sitting on the fence can only make your ass hurt.”


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Hi readers, how have you been?

It feels like I haven’t written in a while, there is absolutely no excuse for my sudden disappearance from the blog. I wish I could blame it on the recent working life but the truth is, there is always enough time for me to pen down my thoughts for you guys, with that said let’s get into this week’s topic.

Have you ever been accused of sitting on the fence on a particular topic?

Don’t be afraid to answer the question truthfully, I recently got accused of sitting on the fence by my brother in law and I can tell you that I was slightly annoyed by this comment.

During a conversation about his upcoming podcast, he said he wouldn’t want me to be a part of it because he thinks I sit on the fence a lot. Honestly, that comment threw me a bit and made me do some self-reflection… Was he right? Am I that indecisive? After 3o seconds of considering his opinion, I came to the conclusion that he was deadly wrong.

I know who I am… “A strong! opinionated! articulate! beautiful young woman.” Click to tweet

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Jokes aside whilst I won’t be rude about my opinion, I do state whether I agree or disagree on matters.

Lol, it’s funny how a small comment can reel so much emotion out of me. Yep, I guess I care about his opinion about me.

In the midst of my internal debate with myself, I started to think about what it truly means to sit on the fence. I came to the realisation that my ability to acknowledge other people opinions had been confused for sitting on the fence.

I find myself saying the phrase “I get what you mean but …” a lot. I do this to avoid dismissing what has been said even if I don’t agree with it.

 So what does sitting on the fence really mean?sitting-on-fence

To sit on the fence means you choose not to pick a side in an argument or fail to make a decision on a subject.

To me sitting on the fence is not a good character trait because I think it is important to clearly state what you believe in regardless of whether it fits with the popular consensus or not.  Your words and action are what people identify you with so if you are known to sit on the fence it would be difficult to assess your mindset.

Imagine you had a serious dilemma you wanted help with. You wish to discuss it with a friend to get a clearer idea of what to do. If you went to a person that always sits on the fence you would leave not feeling any better about the situation. The reason is that a person that sits on the fence does not have the ability to make a decision. They will not tell you whether what you are about to do is right or wrong, therefore you are left to make the decision on your own. This might be good in a way as they allow you to think for yourself but if that’s not what you wanted then it wouldn’t be helpful.

Although I believe you shouldn’t sit on the fence, I understand that there are some situations which you may not be able to give a clear-cut answer due to the complexities of the scenario.

In an attempt to stay off the fence are you guilty of Black and White thinking?

In arguments or debates, we are usually given two options, to be for or against an idea, this leads to what philosophers like to call “Black and White thinking,” but to the common folk like myself it simply means being closed minded.

To avoid sitting on the fence you are expected to pick a side whether it be good or evil, for or against etc. In doing this we ignore the likelihood of a grey area in the matter.

I leave you to ponder on this, is it possible to avoid sitting on the fence without being guilty of black and white thinking?

To read more on black and white thinking click here




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