Take a minute to think about the question above. I promise it’s not a trick question.The other day I used a similar analogy to try and explain a point to my brother.
I am bringing this to the blog because upon observation I realise that a lot of people look for things in the wrong places.
Have you ever heard someone complain about being single and when you ask them why they are? The usual reply is that “guys/women these days are not worth their time and don’t have the qualities they are looking for.”
My question is “What type of people are you surrounded by?” If you have certain expectations and surround yourself with individuals with opposite characteristics to the ones you value,you will forever be singing the same tune.
You can’t find a good guy when you only hang out with ‘Yoruba demons’. For those who don’t know what that means, a ‘Yoruba demon’ according to urban dictionary is apparently a Nigerian guy (yoruba) who goes after a young lady’s heart with no intention of loving her. They are typically met a parties, and would mostly wear white agbada (clothing).
The same applies for people who complain about their friends or family being unsupportive. I’ve struggled with this one myself, mainly because I am a big believer in uplifting and helping those who you love to prosper. One thing I’ve realised is that if your friends or family are not interested in the same things as you and don’t understand it, the lack of interest may come off as lack of support.
I like to use myself as an example because although I’m writing this advice post, it’s not because I Know it all. I simply Don’t.
Let’s get back to the point, as a person that loves music and doesn’t understand the world of gaming, I have some friends that are gamers and I’d love to support them but there is little I can do to show support because I don’t understand that world. I’ll do my best to engage in it but ultimately they may pick up on my lack of interest and confuse it for lack of support.
If you are looking for support you may just have to make friends with like-minded people who get it and have a similar passion to you.
Would you walk into MacDonald’s looking to buy Jeans?
If you’re not quite getting my drift let me give you another crazy example.
Let’s say you were feeling seriously unwell and you want to know what’s wrong with you would you go to your barber or hairdresser to get a diagnosis for your symptoms.
I really want you to understand this because you can apply it to so many situations.
If you are looking for an answer in a place or in a person who is not qualified or does not have the capacity to give you one, you will never find the answer.
Think about this the next time you are about to complain about something whether it be your friends or any other situation.
Are you looking in the right place?